If you’re going through a rough time in your relationship, it’s easy to find people who will encourage you to break things off. After all, relationships are supposed to make us happy, right? And if you’re not happy with your partner, you should find someone who will make you happy.
But the truth is, our happiness should never come from another person. No one can make us happy. And relationships take work. Anyone who says their relationship is easy and perfect and they never fight is either lying, or in deep denial. Healthy couples fight. And many times, the same issues you’re having in your relationship will come up again in the next one.
As Buddhist nun Pema Chödrön says, “you can leave your marriage, you can quit your job, you can only go where people are going to praise you, you can manipulate your world until you’re blue in the face to try to make it always smooth, but the same old demons will always come up until finally you have learned your lesson, the lesson they came to teach you.”
I think about my father, who left my mother when I was just two years old, ripping apart her world, as well as mine and my brother’s, forever. When I was in my twenties, he told me that divorcing my mother was probably the worst mistake of his life. I was livid; now, after all these years, he was finally looking back in regret?
Don’t end up like my father. Here are eight signs to give your relationship a second chance…