Keeping up with the gold digging lifestyle requires smartness and the number one rule of the game is "never get caught".
Blessers also have a way of owning someone in a sense that it comes to their senses that they are desperately needed. Therefore, they put their receivers in a position where they have no other choice but to submit to all that is required of them, whether they are willing or not.
In many cases of this kind, what started as a game usually end up into being victimized by acts like rape, drug abuse, infections and many others. When the blesser can't get what they want, then the victim ends up on the street and this exposes them to more dangers.